Death and Dying Article

The process of death has by all true religions been understood as a process of Ascension, or failure of such, where those souls whose heart was found not to be too heavy, the “just', the “chosen”, would leave behind a life on a lower level of consciousness, and find themselves continue being alive on a higher level of consciousness.

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Being mortal is part of being physical, we do not believe it is an ideal to be imortal while being physical. This would slow our Soul progress.

how the deceased are judged in ancient egyptian mythology

Judgement of the deceased. From the ancient papyrus of Ani

The heart of the deceased is weighed against a feather. A heavy heart will mean the deceased is eaten by the monster (reincarnates), a light heart will mean the deceased is accepted into heaven.

If we have lived a honourable life we may ascend from mortal life to immortal life in the process of physical death.

The process of death has by all true religions been understood as a process of Ascension, or failure of such, where those souls whose heart was found not to be too heavy, the “just', the “chosen”, would leave behind a life on a lower level of consciousness, and find themselves continue being alive on a higher level of consciousness.

The lifespan we can expect
The lifespan we can expect depends to a large extend on where we are born, how polluted the area, the air, food and water is where we live.Essentially off course it depends on our karma, our fate.

As our Earth Changes article have illustrated, the living conditions are changing rapidly all over the globe in these years. This will invariably mean that during this transition a lot of people will die from starvation, floods, diseases, tsunamis, earth quakes, on top of the many already dying from wars etc.

As our article, “Esoteric aspects of Conscious Development”, illustrate, it is not 'just' Earth changes that are happening, we are in a transition moving above Kali Yuga,
towards Dwapara Yuga, a higher age. Earth changes is a symptom of this process.
This means that a lot of negativity is being purged these years.

The suicide rate for teenagers in Australia has increased dramatically in recent years. In some states of Australia, suicide is the leading cause of death for 15-24 year olds.

People die, either naturally because their time is up, as has always happened, or because they psychologically give up, can't handle the stress of change etc. which is happening at increasing rates at the moment.

The changing conditions and quickening vibrations of Earth affect all of us, forcing us to consciously or subconsciously adapt, be more flexible in mind and way of living, in order to maintain the alignment. “the quickening” is the problem and at the same time an immense help in this task.

If our effort, fate or karma allows, negativity and disease etc can be left behind, and our consciousness may rise towards a higher level of consciousness. If we cannot align, the misalignment between our energy and Earth's energy will cause us to suffer or maybe die.

Whether we look at death and dying in a earth changes perspective or as the eternal fate of mankind, a sign of the quickening times is that death and dying no longer is taboo.

It is now increasingly possible to reach out and help a group of people that sooner or later will have ourselves among them, and help.

When we want to help genuinely We need to be grounded, come from integrity in what we do

Grounding and integrity - Psychologically speaking
That you are able to face truth, for example the suffering of mankind
and the predicament the earth is in at the moment.
That you are able to be present and partake in what is in fact happening.

Ungrounded – Psychologically speaking
Inability to be present and partake in what is in fact happening.

Grounding and integrity – Spiritually speaking
Openness for the higher with the integrity of the mind intact

Ungrounded – Spiritually speaking
“Do as you please and lament the consequences” Spiritual and or psychological ungroundedness will also show up as physical ungroundedness, cold feet or hands, Lack of balance.

Even if we can hide our emotions etc externally, we will harbour them, still vibrate with them, and often dying people are very sensitive and will pick it up.

The law of resonance:
“A vibrating object will cause other objects to vibrate if these other objects harbour the same vibration as a potential possibility”
The law of resonance explains that a certain vibration will start a similar vibration in objects around it, if these other objects latent harbours the possibility for the same vibration.
An example is the two tuning-forks:
If you start a big tuning fork on a wooden base in one end of a room, and have a similar tuned big tuning fork on a wooden base (amplifier) somewhere else in the room, the tuning fork that you did not touch will start humming, even if untouched, sparked only by the vibrations from the first tuning fork.
In terms of human receptivity, this means that if somebody harbours a quality or problem that we to some degree harbours ourselves, we will “resonate:” with the person, and knowledge of ourselves will thus help us knowing something about the other person.
A consequence of this law, the law of resonance, is that to give nice sounding advice that does not resonate harmoniously with our own true living, will not help, or will at least be impaired by the resonance from the parts of us that is not living these advices.

Many patients don’t want your help
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross writes in “Death is of Vital Importance“: “So after you take care of the physical needs of the dying person, and after you have made sure that there is a way to communicate, then only is it possible to take care of the emotions and unfinished business. All you need to do as a helper is to ask what you can do for him or her and hear and listen to him/her who tell you intuitively, not intellectually, what it is that he/she needs in order to live, literally to live, until he dies. But you have to be aware of the fact, that many, many patients share with you that they don’t want your help, you should go home, what are you doing here? And most people who offer help feel terribly rejected when they are told to go home. We should always evaluate when a patient makes us feel unloved, unwanted or unneeded, because every time you get negative about anybody, especially a patient or client, he gives you a gift by getting you in touch with your own unfinished business. If you have enough self-confidence and self respect about the role that you play, you will not be devastated when a dying person tells you, “No, thank you!” It is very important that people in the health profession learn that, in order NOT TO BECOME BURNED OUT.
Kubler-Ross concludes: “You may work eighty hours a week with dying children, with families of murder victims and suicide and with the greatest tragedies that you can barely conceive, without ever, ever getting burned out as long as you have no unfinished business yourself”.

Edited from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross: “Death is of Vital Importance” p.48- 49

The dying is loosing their whole world
“Often we forget that the dying is loosing their whole world: their house, their job, their relationships, their body, and their mind - they’re loosing everything. All the losses we could possibly experience in life joined together in one overwhelming loss when we die, so how could anyone dying not be sometimes sad, sometimes panicked, sometimes angry?
When the dying person is finally communicating his or her most private feelings, do not interrupt, deny, or diminish what the person is saying.

The terminally ill or dying are in the most vulnerable situation of their lives
The terminally ill or dying are in the most vulnerable situation of their lives, and you will need all your skill and resources of sensitivity, and warmth, and loving compassion to enable them to reveal themselves.
Learn to listen, and learn to receive in silence: an open, calm silence that makes the other person feel accepted. Be as relaxed as you can, be at ease; sit there with your dying friend or relative as if you had nothing more important or enjoyable to do.
I have found that, as in all grave situations of life, two things are most useful: a common-sense approach and a sense of humour. Humour has a marvellous way of lightening the atmosphere, helping to put the process of dying in its true and universal perspective, and breaking the over-seriousness and intensity of the situation. Use humour, then, as skilfully and as gentle as possible.
I have found also, from my own experience that it is essential not to take anything too personally. When you least expect it, dying people can make you the target of all their anger and blame. As Elisabeth Kübler Ross says, anger and blame can “be displaced in all directions, and projected onto the environment at times almost at random.” Do not imagine that this rage is really aimed at you; realising what fear and grief it springs from will stop you from reacting to it in ways that might damage your relationship.”

Edited from Sogyal Rinpoche: The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying p. 173 ff


“Do not expect too much from yourself, or expect your help to produce miraculous results in the dying person or “save” them. You will only be disappointed. People will die as they have lived, as themselves. For real communication to be established, you must make a determined effort to see the person in terms of his or her own life, character, background, and history, and to accept the person unreservedly. Also don’t be distressed if your help seems to be having very little effect and the dying person does not respond. We cannot know the deeper effects of our care.”
“A dying person most needs to be shown as unconditional a love as possible, released from all expectations. Don’t think you have to be an expert in any way. Be natural, be yourself, be a true friend, and the dying person will be reassured that you are really with them, communicating with them simply and as an equal, as one human being to another.
I have said, “Show the dying person unconditional love,” but in some situations that is far from easy. We may have a long history of suffering with the person, we may feel guilty about what we have done to the person in the past or anger and resentment at what the person has done to us.”

Sogyal Rinpoche: The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying p. 173 ff

Don’t try to be too wise
“Don’t try to be too wise; don’t always try to search for something profound to say. You don’t have to do or say anything to make things better. Just be there as fully as you can. And if you are feeling a lot of anxiety and fear, and don’t know what to do, admit that openly to the dying person and ask his or her help. This honesty will bring you and the dying person closer together, and help in opening up a freer communication. Sometimes the dying knows far better than we how they can be helped, and we need to know how to draw on their wisdom and let them give to us what they know. Cicely Saunders has asked us to remind ourselves that in being with the dying, we are not the only givers. “Sooner or later all who work with dying people know they are receiving more than they are giving as they meet endurance, courage and often humour. We need to say so…” Acknowledging or recognition of their courage can often inspire the dying person.
I find too that I have been helped by remembering one thing: that the person in front of me dying is always, somewhere, inherently good. Whatever rage or emotion arises, however momentarily shocking or horrifying these may be, focusing on that inner goodness will give you the control and perspective you need to be as helpful as possible. Just as when you quarrel with a good friend, you do not forget the best parts of that person, do the same with the dying person: don’t judge them by whatever emotions arise. This acceptance of yours will release the dying person to be as uninhibited as he or she needs to be. Treat the dying as if they were what they are sometimes capable of being: open, loving, and generous.
On a deeper, spiritual level, I find it extremely helpful always to remember the dying person has the true Buddha nature, whether he or she realises it or not, and the potential for complete enlightenment. As the dying come closer to death, this possibility is in many ways even greater. So they deserve even more care and respect.”

Sogyal Rinpoche: The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying p. 173 ff

People will die as they have lived - as themselves

[…] By listening to dying patients, all of us learned what we should’ve done differently in the past and what we could do better in the future.
Each time I brought a patient in (for interviewing in front of the audience) and then took him out, his life reminded me of “one of the millions of lights in a vast sky that flares up for a brief moment only to disappear into the endless night”. The lessons each individual taught us boiled down to the same message:
Live so that you don’t look back and regret that you’ve wasted your life. Live so you don’t regret the things you have done or wish that you had acted differently. Live life honestly and fully. Live.”

Helping the living (While dying or very alive) With the help of sounds, voice, music and pictures:
“Nobody realises when they look at an object, that it always represent either a danger or a blessing that is lying in wait for them, depending on the nature of the object, its form and its radiations, and also on their own inner state, for their whole being takes on the shape, dimensions and attributes of that object. […] not outwardly anyway. But inwardly, on the psychic level, a human being identifies with what he looks at. This is a biological law of nature.”

Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov: “The Splendour of Tiphareth” p.31 – 33

Patterns in sand on a soundplate exposed to The vovel A (Cymatics)

Patterns in sand on a soundplate exposed to The vovel A (Cymatics)

Sound produces a pattern a form a picture A picture produces a pattern a form, a sound

The reason why looking at art affects us is the same reason why listening to music affects us – it produces vibrations within us

Helping the dead
Science is aware that sound can reach us some time into clinical death. What we don’t know scientifically speaking is how long time
What science of course is not yet ready to acknowledge, is that we have a physical body, we are not the body, the core of us is eternal -and this eternal part of us can relate to us, even if we still are physical.
Scientists are starting to acknowledge that it makes sense to talk to a newly dead:
“It is well known to anaesthesiologists that hearing is last sense to be anaesthetized prior to surgery and the first sense to return in the recovery room. Because of this, medical personnel have learned to be careful not to say any socially regrettable remarks about a patient while they are recovering from the effects of a general anaesthetic. The auditory nerve (VIII) leaves the brain at the lower level of the pons. This is a much lower level than the cerebral cortex or oculomotor nerve (III) and is therefore functional when these higher brain areas are not. During a NDE, even though the person is not conscious or able to see, this lower level of the brain is still functional and able to hear as well as form memories of what is heard. Several experiments have shown that anaesthetised patients who were told (falsely) that there was a surgical crisis were later able to recall either exactly or close to what was said even though they were not conscious. (Wettach 2000).”

Helping the dead via concentration love and vibrations
“To send your thoughts to loved ones who have passed on, sit quietly in your room and meditate on God. When you feel His peace within you, concentrate deeply at the Christ centre, the centre of will at the point between the two eyebrows, [the 3’ eye], and broadcast your love to those dear ones who are gone. Visualize at the Christ centre the person you wish to contact. Send to that soul your vibrations of love, and of strength and courage. If you do this continuously and if you don’t loose the intensity of your interest in that loved one, that soul will definitely receive your vibrations. Such thoughts give your loved ones a sense of well-being, a sense of being loved. They have not forgotten you any more than you have forgotten them.”

How can a person who is dead hear the Tibetan Book of the Dead ?
This also explains how talking to the dead and working with pictures of the stages between death and a new birth may help
“The simple reply is that the consciousness of the dead person, when it is invoked by the power of prayer, is able to read our minds and can feel exactly whatever we may be thinking or meditating on. That is why there is no obstacle to the dead persons understanding the Tibetan Book of the Dead or practices done on their behalf, even though they may be recited in Tibetan. For the dead person, language is no barrier at all, for the essential meaning of the text can be understood fully and directly by his or her mind.
This makes it all the more vital that the practitioner should be as focused and attentive as possible when doing the practice, and not merely performing it by rite. Also, as the dead person is living the actual experiences, he or she may have a greater capacity to understand the truth of the Tibetan Book of the Dead than we do!”

Sogyal Rinpoche “The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying” p. 305

You must prepare for death
Death is not at all what you believe it to be. You expect from death the natural quietness of an unconscious rest. But to obtain that rest you must prepare for it.
When you die you loose only your body and at the same time the possibilities of relation with and action on the material world. But all that belongs to the vital world does not disappear with the material substance; all your desires, attachments, cravings persist with the sense of frustration and disappointment, and all that prevents you from finding the expected peace. To enjoy a peaceful and eventless death you must prepare for it. And the only effective preparation is the abolition of desires.
So long as we have a body we have to act, to work, to do something: but if we do it simply because it has to be done, without seeking for the result or wanting it to be like this or like that, we get progressively detached and thus prepare ourselves for a restful death.

The Mother, “Words of the Mother, Part two
Here from “God in All Worlds p 553

How to help someone in a process of dying depends on how much the dying is prepared to work with, do they want a merciful sleep, or do they want to let go, forgive and finish unfinished business? Be careful, be considerate, let the dying decide!

It is several-lives old inertia that determines if someone will see or sleep
In principle one can, always, throughout the whole life, even on the deathbed, decide if one wants to see or sleep.
The consequence of dying conscious is freedom.
The consequence of dying asleep is karma, one is wholly at the mercy of ones karma.

Are you able to look your life in the eyes?
The ability to see - also at the moment of death - Depends on conscience

Will you see or sleep?

If we live a life governed by habits, it is the same as saying that we live a life of sleepwalking, doing what we use to do, not what the present moment would invite as the most life-reassuring and worthwhile.
Often in life we continue a habit because we consciously or unconsciously avoid comprehending the long-term consequences of this habit. Obvious examples are well-known health-hazards as for example smoking, drinking or using drugs.
On much more subtle levels many seemingly innocent habits are not conductive, but it would take keen self-knowledge and awareness to detect that they are there and that they are not conductive. An example of that is feeling for example fear or anger. Unless fear or anger is related to actual inner or outer events, they usually arise as a habitual response to certain situations, with the original event that started the habit, well buried in the distant past. It is a fact in everybody’s life that we face certain situations more readily than other situations, and where we do not face them, it is habit that governs our perception, responses and urges.

Samsara or “Gaia Lure”
“Gaia lure” from Greek mythology and Samsara are two words for the same thing, namely attachment to the world of phenomena.
“Our lives seem to live us, to possess their own bizarre momentum, to carry us away; in the end we feel we have no choice or control over them. Of course we feel bad about this sometimes, we have nightmares and wake up in sweat, wondering: “What am I doing with my life?” But our fear only last until breakfast time, out comes the briefcase, and back we go to where we started. […] Sometimes I think that the greatest achievement of modern culture is its brilliant selling of samsara and its barren distractions. Modern society seems to me a celebration of all the things that lead away from the truth, make truth hard to live for, and discourage people from even believing that it exists. And to think that all this spring from a civilisation that claims to adore life, but actually starves it of any real meaning, that endlessly speaks of making people “happy,” but in fact blocks their way to the source of real joy.”

Sogyal Rinposche: “The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying” p. 20

If you talk to someone on a deathbed the issue of seeing or sleeping is important, you have to carefully ‘test the waters’.
Does the person want to talk honest, real, or does he or she need reassurances, to counteract for example deep fear?
Are there strongly held beliefs that cannot be changed, or is the mind of the dying person too rigid to comprehend anything other than the belief system of this life around?
Maybe unlived life, or wrongly lived life is even more important. Have the dying person spend his or her life achieving what was not worth achieving,? What about things one should have done or said; things one should not have done or said, what about conscience.

Am I a victim?

“A person that in a certain situation is mistreated, finds himself in this situation to a large extend because this person is helplessly unaware about his own ability to do the same.
When something happens and I cannot see my own part, then the energy in the situation freezes me in the role as passive, innocent victim. If I, when something happens, can understand and feel that it could just as easy have been me doing that the other way, that I actually in other connections do it, then the energy will not solidify, but move towards the Self”.

Jes Bertelsen: “The reality of the Self”

If we look closer into the driving force behind what we have done in our life, our motives may not always be as nice and ‘pure’ as we may wish. This is a fact in everybody’s life.
So maybe we could not live a life of a Saint”, but what we can do at the end, is to make sure we face and forgive ourselves for what we have done in the past, and allow God to be the judge rather than ourselves.

christ from the turino shroud
Christ from the Turino shroud,

An exercise to help forgiving ourselves: The only that is judging you is yourself
Look at the picture, or a picture of an enlightened of your choice.
Feel your heart or your spine. Keep looking at the picture while you at the same time are aware of the event you wish to work with, and what this has done to you and to others.
If you continue doing this, you will realise that the only that is judging you is yourself
The divine is pure love.

The astral world has many spheres: “When we awaken in the morning, we find we are exactly the same as before we went to sleep. Similarly, when we and our loved ones awaken in the astral world after death, we are exactly the same; only generally we may be more youthful in appearance and free of disease.
We don’t become angels merely by the instrument of death. If we are angels now, we will be angels in the hereafter. If we are dark, negative personalities now, we will be the same after death. Just as there are slums and beautiful parts of the country here, so it is in the other world. According to the way you have lived your life on earth – whether you have lived a good, pure life, or a mean, ugly one – you go to a better or darker region in the astral world. Jesus spoke of these different regions: “In my Father’s house are many mansions.” (John 14:2).
The astral planes are of differing atmospheres, or vibrations, and each soul that passes on from this earth is attracted to whichever atmosphere is in harmony with its own particular vibration. Just as fish live in water, worms in the earth, man on the earth, and birds in the air, so souls in the astral world live in whichever sphere is best suited to their own vibration. The more noble and spiritual a person is on earth, the higher the sphere to which he will be attracted, and the greater will be his freedom and joy and experience of beauty.
On the astral planets, beings are not dependent upon air or electricity in order to exist. They live in variously coloured rays of light. There is more freedom in the astral world than in the physical world. There are no bones to break, because there are no solids there; everything is composed of light rays. And everything takes place by the power of thought. When souls in the astral want to produce a garden, they merely will it, and the garden comes into being. It remains as long as it is willed to. When a soul wants the garden to disappear, it goes away.”

Paramahansa Yogananda: “The Divine Romance” p 286f

What we know about the first phases of death Near Death Experiences or NDEs
A person is dying, reaching the point with the greatest physical pain, he hears himself declared dead by the doctor. He begins to hear an unpleasant noise, a loud ringing or buzzing, and simultaneously he realises he is moving fast through a long, dark tunnel [towards a bright light].

We are born of light, we live in light, we die in light we are made out of light
“We are born of light, we live in light, we die in light – we are made out of light. This has been one of the greatest insights of the mystics of all ages. The scientists have also agreed to it just now, within these twenty years; they had to agree. Just twenty years ago they were laughing at the mystics, thinking that they were talking nonsense – “Man made of light? They must be talking metaphorically, not literally.” But mystics were really talking literally.
Now, science not only says that man is made of light but that everything is made of light; all is made of electrons, electricity. Science has come to this understanding from a very long route. The objective route is a very long route; the subjective route is very easy, the shortest possible, because you have only to look within. Nothing else is required – just the art of closing your eyes and looking in.
That’s what meditation is: the art of looking in. And the moment thoughts disappear and the mind is utterly quiet and silent, the inner light is seen. That is a revelation.
And once you have seen your light, you will be surprised: you can see it now in everybody else. Then the whole existence is nothing but an ocean of light. It is not matter, it is pure energy.”

Osho: A must for Contemplation Before Sleep p. 84

The different religions
In our E-learning course we go much deeper into the different religions understanding of what happens after death and ways of helping the dead

In our e-book section we sell two books specifically meant to help the dying in the transition towards death, and the dead after the transition: Our Cosmic Home
With text pictures from the zodiac and planets designed as meditations for helping the dead. Liberation through Resonance in the Bardo With text and 9 pictures designed as meditations for helping the dead.

The last thought:
At the moment of death If we let go lightly, We go out into the light, Towards the One, Towards God. The only thing that died, after all, Was another set of thoughts Of whom we were this time around.

Ram Dass, Grist for the Mill,
Here from “God in All Worlds” p 554.

Online meditations specifically aimed at helping the dead and dying:
Liberation through Resonance in the Bardo

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